As a life coach, I am excited to meet people where they are mentally and emotionally. It’s a pleasure for me to tag along as people explore what they want, who they want to be, and how they want to navigate in this world. A common theme I hear in various forms is ‘people disappoint me’. Which leads the discussion toward their eventual understanding that if you are not sharing your loving self, you are sending a contrived representative hoping to get better results than you received in the past and generally with little- to -no internal satisfaction.
So, if all things of importance begin within you, as is presumed in title and a series of questions to come…I ask you this: “If you don’t experience your lovable qualities, how would you know if someone else was appreciating them?” I’m interested in what you think and feel. Please share your comments.
Today, people in the United States celebrate Thanksgiving. People around the world have learned that giving thanks throughout the everyday increases an abundant flow that is greater than money. It encourages richer relationships, increased sharing, belonging, living fully, peace of mind, wisdom and love of life!
Stare at a perfect rose long enough and you will find an imperfection. People are no different; our imperfections gives us our life lessons to learn. Those imperfections are what makes us human, and dare I say interesting? Welcome to the human race, perfectly imperfect people!
What advice would you give someone to help them accept their imperfections?
I am grateful we are here in this world! Thankful for the gifts we share. I wish for us the courage needed to find our undiscovered strengths, and endless encouragement to incorporate those strengths in our daily interactions.
Your real beauty and wholeness resides inside of you! If you don’t see it, you may have buried your inner specialness. I recommend that you lift up (admit) and discard (forgive) your old mistakes and hurts. Now you are free to think; what if it’s true that you are beautiful on the inside? Get comfortable with the belief; start by repeating to yourself, “I have inner beauty.”
When you recognize your inner beauty, how can you let it shine?
The other day, someone I care about did something that hurt my feelings. I felt the full impact of fear. My body was heavy, tight and tired. While sitting still with the fear, my mind opened enough for me to realize fear isn’t our natural state of being. It is natural to feel light and buoyant and curious. That shift in awareness allowed me to feel alive and love again.
The next time you feel heavy, can you shed light on what you fear?
How can you bring yourself back to your natural state of being – – alive and loving?
We want people to be compassionate with us. Here’s the radical part; we have to be compassionate with ourselves and others in order to expect it from others! Compassion is possible when we are authentic, feel worthy, and accept as humans that we are sometimes imperfect.
Are you daring enough to show yourself and others compassion?
You are powerful! Look at what you have created in your life. It does not matter whether you wanted the life you have or not; if you accept the notion, you created it. By accepting it, you now get to use the power you have to change what you don’t like and give thanks for what you do have that you want!
Are you willing to accept your personal power to evoke change?
Are you using your personal power to create good for yourself and others?
We spend so much time thinking about what we don’t want. Let’s imagine what we do want! Begin to cancel every thought you don’t want and actively replace it with statements that support what you do want to see in your life. While you are imagining what you do want, allow yourself to feel the joy associated with what you do want. These feelings reinforce the thought thereby helping to attract/align to what you want!
Does imaging what you do want make you smile?
Doesn’t it feel good to focus on what you want rather than what you don’t want?
We were all born with dignity. As babies, we cried out for what we needed; and more often than not, those needs were met. Somewhere along the life path, we were taught to stop asking for what we wanted as if it were not dignified to have what we want and need.
As adults, let’s reclaim the dignity in seeking what we need. Let’s be brave enough to expect our needs to be met!
What thoughts hold you back from asking for what you need?
What can you do for yourself and what can you ask others to help you with today?